You have had sex in every corner, you watch porn together, sext on a daily basis, and now you want to take your sex life to the next level. It’s time to set aside your judgments and come over to the freak side. Here are some activities to help you get your kink on.
Spanking
Go ahead! Smack some ass! Or bend over and feel the sweet and sour sting of your partn
er’s hand. The trick is to be light and sensual with some caressing in between slaps. Use your hands to start with. Perform light smacks and increase the force to increase the sensation. Warm up your partner’s bottom before going full force on it. For individuals who desire heavier pain, a paddle or strap can be used.
Remember when you were a kid and the games you played? Cops and robbers, cowboys and Indians…etc? Incorporate this imagination into your sexual encounters as an adult by engaging in some role-play. Be a naughty student who gets taken to the principle’s office. Go see the doctor for an exam. Play boss and secretary. No matter what you choose, role-play is a fun way to start experimenting with being in a different headspace. Just think: We can now play pretend and have orgasms!
Temperature Play
Ice, hot water, melted candle wax; sensually caressing your partner’s body with anything that can change skin temperature will certainly heat things up. Ice to the nipples followed by a warm tongue can heighten sexual arousal. Try dripping warm wax slowly over your partner’s skin, then peeling it off sensuously after it cools down.
Food Play
Just a little dab will do you, honey! Drop honey or chocolate sauce on your partner’s body and lick it off. Place it in strategic places then nibble away. Dip your toes in champagne, and then have it sucked off. We have all seen the endless varieties of playful food play in popular culture. Create your own creative implementation of this fun kink. Food play can be messy so be prepared to clean up afterward. Also, keep in mind that most foods, raw meat or foods that contain sugar, should not be inserted into the body.
Before You Start
Remember that mutual respect should be present in all sexual encounters. If you’re your partner is uncomfortable, do not force. No means no.